Tuesday, May 02, 2006

Monday, May 01, 2006

Daily dose of SILLY!


Every night...


during that last hour before bed...


someone short & cute...


gets a serious case...


of the giggles!!!


Anything I do...


every face that I make...


or silly sound that comes out of my mouth...


gets reactions like these...


hands down; the CUTEST smiles ever AND the BEST hour of my day!

Sunday, April 30, 2006

Has it been that long?

Five months... seems like an eternity at times but it's weird, because exactly five months ago tonight, I had just returned home to Boston from China.
I was exhausted from the long journey home, from the hours that, at times, seemed to crawl endlessly one into the next with no end in sight.
But what a TRIP it turned out to be. The two weeks that changed my life forever...
... my days in China were ones I'll never forget.
I flew half way around this earth to meet my dream come true... and what a dream she was!
I was finally, a Mother. Not just any Mother... but a Mother to this most beautiful perfect baby girl that still, to this day, takes my breath away.
I didn't know what I had done to deserve such a beautiful child & it's funny, everyone says how lucky she is to have me, but the truth is, it's completely the other way around & I'll say that till the day I die.

Ruby saved me.


You're all familiar I'm sure with the saying "Always a bridesmaid, never a bride..." ? Well, in my head it went a little something like this: "Always a Nanny, never a Mother..."
Ruby washed that saying from my head & my heart for the rest of my life.
I am probably the proudest woman on the planet tonight.
Proud of my Daughter who, at 2 days old was abandoned & ultimately found to be placed into the local SWI in her province. She lived all those days, and weeks, and months... (14 to be exact) without a Mother... always wondering, I'm sure, if one would come.

Halfway across the world, during those same 14 months, I too was alone & wondering...
... will there ever be an end to this thing called 'adoption'. Is there really a light at the end of the tunnel or am I just destined to sit idly by & watch as everyone else in the world (it seemed) was celebrating the arrival of their referrals, while mine was still no where to be found.
I believe that September of 04... I was at the tail end of compiling my dossier paperwork to have it ready for a Dec 1st DTC.
(ha, how naive I was...)
Dec 1st came and went... no DTC.
Finally on Jan 14th, 2005 I received the news that I was DTC and was that such an unreal feeling.
I was excited yet, felt like someone had just unofficially placed a HUGE BOLDER on my shoulders for me to carry around UNTIL ... until... ah, yes- until my baby girl's picture came to me in the form of a referral.
July came and referrals were coming in but not for my group.
Originally when I started the process they said it was roughly a six month wait from DTC to referral. Ok, six months... I can do that, right?
Ah, August... such a lovely month... so hot & muggy and buggy and sticky & the month I was to turn 33. Who wouldn't love August?
I wouldn't love August. Big deal, another birthday (all it meant was I was getting older & gravity was continuing to be ever so cruel in just the right places...) and still, no referral.
So you'll forgive me if I don't celebrate August in the way it should be celebrated... I think I slept through most of it if I wasn't burying myself in my job.
Then September comes... people thought for SURE that my referral would've come before August was over & they'd say " oh my gosh Amy, you must be so upset... I really thought we'd have a picture by now, when do you think it's coming? I just can't wait another minute..."
which always made me laugh because, as much as I love my family & friends, THEY weren't the ones who jumped into this whole process with both feet planted firmly on the ground...
...I was.
I would hear these things being said to me & think to myself, "ok Amy, don't flip on them, just be nice, don't be rude... they don't understand, they're just trying to be helpful & make me feel better..." when really all it made me want to do was to jam a pen in their windpipe so they couldn't ask such asinine questions of me EVER again!
Asking someone who is TRYING to PATIENTLY wait for their Referral of their child "when is the picture coming" is like asking someone with a loved one in the ICU "when do you think she'll pass? Will it be soon or can we expect her to hold on just a little longer?"

YOU WOULDN'T DARE TO ASK SUCH THINGS TO SOMEONE OVER SUCH A SENSITIVE MATTER, PERIOD.
So, why then is it ACCEPTABLE to ask anyone waiting to adopt ANYTHING, unless it's "can I buy you some chocolate?"
Now that question I'd have had an answer for, and it would've been pleasant.

So now, as I sit here & remember all these things that happened while I waited for that day to arrive when I first laid eyes on my precious baby girl... I can't help but think to myself, "man, it was ALL WORTH IT!"
I guess it's what biological mothers say regarding the 'labor' part of 'labor & delivery'... that it was all worth it once you see that sweet little face.
And you know what? They're right... because just when I had given up all hope & was LITERALLY curled up on my couch with my trusted furry friend Ebenezer, the impossible became possible. My phone rang & it was Eric from my agency wishing me a Happy Birthday.
(I love Eric, but he can be a bit of a spaz at times cuz his brain is always on like twenty five different things at once...) So I had to laugh as I said to him, "Eric, it's not my birthday... you know my birthday's in August..."
"Well," he said... " It's Ruby's Birthday."
"WHAT!!!!@#$#%^#$%^@#$%!?
"Yup, Today is Ruby's Birthday & she's 1 year old & she's beautiful..."
*thud* (the sound of my jaw hitting the floor as I jumped off the couch & heard the words that I'd waited SO LONG to hear...)
I was shaking & numb all at once.
I feel that, with everything going on with the CCAA and all the people who are just tired of the waiting & the wondering, well... I felt it would be nice to share with you all the reality that, yes- you really DO eventually get this call... and yes- it IS THAT AMAZING!

That day was September 7th, 2005... one year to the day of my daughter's birthday.
I was numb, I was shaking, I was crying tears of joy, I was the happiest I'd ever been in my entire life...
I ran to the computer & violently shook my foot while waiting for what seemed like FOREVER to heard that familiar *ding* that tells me I have mail...
Shaking, I click on it and what I saw, changed my life forever.



You know, I knew what Ruby looked like long before I ever saw her actual picture.
God's honest truth... I saw her in a dream & I remember telling my Mother during this process that "OMG Ma, she's beautiful & chubby & has a TON of HAIR and she's got a gorgeous face and I just LOVE HER SO MUCH!"
My mom would say " Amy, what if when you get your referral it's a cute little baby with no hair?"
I simply replied to her,
"I'm not worried, cuz it won't happen, trust me, Ruby has a TON of hair..."
"But Amy, you could get referred a sweet little bald baby, and you'll love that baby just as much, you have to prepare yourself for that..."
(me, smiling...)
"Ma, really- it won't happen. Believe me, Ruby has hair..."

So, the day I opened that email from Eric, and saw this beautiful child, I knew that there was way more at work here than just people at my agency, people in china, people who do the fingerprints or the authentications or the notarizations etc...
... a miracle was at work & I was experiencing it first hand.



Happy Five Months Home baby girl... You are now & remain forever, Momma's Dream Come True!!!
Here's to the next five months flying by so that everyone I love who is currently waiting for their miracles to arrive, will be just that much closer...

Saturday, April 29, 2006

Food for thought...



A mother who radiates self-love and self-acceptance actually vaccinates her
daughter against low self-esteem.


-Naomi Wolf

Friday, April 28, 2006

Dream a Chocolate Dream...



OH! MY! GOD! DON'T! THESE! LOOK! FABULOUS!

What are they you ask? (cuz you know you're wondering what in the HELL those tins are...)
THEY'RE DRINKING CHOCOLATES!
And not like 'hot powdered cocoa' crap (and no offense to anyone who is in love with their swiss miss or whatever brand of hot cocoa you buy) BUT, this stuff, I saw last night on an eppisode of UNWRAPPED, and OH MY GOD IT LOOKED SO YUMMY!!!!
I wanted to JUMP THROUGH MY TELEVISION SET & TRY SOME!!!

Rather than a weak limpy powder added to 'water' (BLECK, WHAT'S THAT???)-
it's teenie tiny actual BITS of chocolate!! You take two tablespoons of the chocolate bits, add a splash of milk & in the microwave for 30 seconds it goes. Then, you blend & it's literally LIQUID CHOCOLATE and then you add the REST of your MILK (NOT WATER!) to the glass & back in the microwave it goes for one solid minute. Top with whipped cream & a dusting of those chocolate bits and HOLY CHRIST SIGN ME UP I WANT SOME!!!!!
I only wish that this place took 'paypal' LOL cuz THAT is what I want for Mother's Day. LOL
I'd love to try the Chocolate Mint, the Extreme Dark (for my Dad), and (OOOH DROOL!!!) the German Chocolate Cake, and maybe a Triple Chocolate for good measure. OMG I'M A CHOCOLATE MONSTER ON A MISSION!

Ladies, anyone up for having a 'DRINK YOUR CHOCOLATE' party with me?
I'm SERIOUS, because the MINUTE I find a job, the FIRST THING I'm going to treat MYSELF to, IS THIS BEAUTIFUL WONDERFUL DRINKING CHOCOLATE!!!
And ANYONE WHO LIVES CLOSE ENOUGH is WELCOME TO COME OVER, cuz chocolate is always better when enjoyed with a friend or SEVERAL FRIENDS!
*smile*


Thursday, April 27, 2006

Table for two? (& early Mother's Day Wishes...)


Simplicity at it's BEST! (& shortest!!)
This is a table & chair set from IKEA, courtesy of a very generous 'Mother's Day Gift'
from a very generous & wonderfully thoughtful friend...
... I'm sure Ruby and Momma are going to have MANY LOVELY TEA PARTIES
at this adorable yet simple table for two.
I can't wait, because the first thing we're going to do is to propose a 'toast' to one very special lady who lives half way across the states, but is very much alive & well right inside our hearts.
THANK YOU THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!

And, I know it's a bit early but...

A HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO EVERY MOTHER ON THIS EARTH!!
To those who are grandparents & basking in the joys that their grandchildren bring them...
To those who are veteran's with grown children out of the house...
(or perhaps still hanging around just a few feet up...)
To those who are dealing with the very tricky 'teenage' years...
To those who have small children be they adopted or biological...
and ESPECIALLY to THOSE OF YOU STILL WAITING and WAITING and WAITING some more, for that most precious of gifts... your referral!
To those about to embark on the journey to motherhood, either through international/domestic adoption or biological means...
And to those biological mothers in China, the ones who'se bodies carried & nurtured our daughters... the ones who found the courage to be brave enough to leave these precious bundles in a place where they were sure to be found...
To every woman who has ever had to give up a child...
And to those who have lost a child, & are still hoping to one day start that family...
You are ALL mothers and today, (albeit a tad bit early...)
today is ALL MOTHER'S DAY!
So, to every MOTHER everywhere...
Ruby and I wish you all a VERY HAPPY HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

*I need some tissues...*

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

A work in progress...

You may have noticed that a previous post is now missing... it'll come back eventually, don't worry. I'm just working on adding more pics from when I was in China. I don't have a ton of them but the ones I wanted to share weren't ready for immediate upload, so your patience is requested for the time being until I can get my act together & get everything ready for it's public viewing.

Until then, let's all just bask in the glory of lil'miss Pickler getting booted tonight. She's cute & yes she can sing but it was TIME! THANK YOU AMERICA! And than you too for keeping my adorable Elliot still there, although I'd like to single handedly take credit for him being safe tonight, after all... I'm pretty sure I called over A HUNDRED TIMES last night to ensure the boy stuck around for the duration! ;)

WOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOO GO ELLIOT!!! THIS BOSTON GIRL LOOOOVVVVVEEEEEEESSSSSSS YOU!

Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Beyond worried...

... officially at scared shitless now!


No work anywhere... and I'm now nearly a month into being completely without unemployment benefits. Scarey? To say the least...

To top it off, the family I fell IN LOVE with, who seemed to adore both me and Ruby too, are just too far to make a serious commitment with, it wouldn't be fair to anyone sadly, I just wish it could've worked, but the good thing is I've made a wonderful new friend who feels like a sister to me, I adore her & her precious daughter. Ruby loves her too so it wasn't a lost cause at all, it is wonderful to make new friends.

Now if I could just find a new family to work for, I'll be back in Nanny heaven & in my element again. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being a mother... and being Ruby's Mother is hands down the best gig in town, I am truly blessed... but this 'blessed Mother' is SCARED OUTTA HER WITTS (did I ever even have any witts to begin with? really??) that if I don't find work soon, I don't know WHAT I'll do!

Please pray for us everyone ok? The louder the better, cuz I'm convinced that God enjoys his time up there in heaven & he probably is a big fan of music, therefore he's blasting his tunes perhaps a LITTLE TOO LOUD to even hear my prayers to him every night... but maybe if we all do it SUPER SERIOUSLY LOUD he'll HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO LISTEN, right?
Humor me... please just do this, it would mean the world to me & to one very sweet little girl who hasn't a clue what I'm facing.

I hate feeling like this... and hate is a strong word that I don't use often, but I'm using it now.
This just sucks.

=/

Candycane Kid & her bestest sidekick Bear...


... ride into a town called 'morning hair',


atop a wooden horse with no name.
(only a licence plate)

LOL

Sunday, April 23, 2006

True Love...


... is when you know in your heart that you could quite possibly spend
the rest of forever staring at that beautiful face & not budge once.

Saturday, April 22, 2006

Ruby's adventures in spoon feeding...

These photos are brought to you by:

With spills courtesy of Sir Isaac Newton...


First SPOON experience, provided by Sassy Less Mess Self Feeder Toddler Spoons


Also making an appearance: Toddler Friendly Dinnerware


And one very happy (yet messy) Ruby Cate...


Proud smiles were seen all around...


And this EXTREEMLY PROUD Momma could not be HAPPIER!

Little Hand...


... BIG history.

Thursday, April 20, 2006

Teach em' YOUNG! *grin*


Some teach their kids how to eat with a spoon,
say certain words, perhaps how to throw a ball, etc...
ME? I taught my child THIS!
AND WE'RE DAMN PROUD OF IT!!! hehehe
(Ruby is walking with her beloved Nonno and her Uncle Adam was the camera man...)

Wednesday, April 19, 2006

Peenie Men & Hoochie Noonies...

While talking with a friend of mine today, she asked me what, if anything, I use to refer to my child's private parts. I said at first, nothing really, then remembered that over all the years of nannying, I've always used the following terms for those parts: Boys have a Peenie Man, and girls have a Hoochie Noonie. Don't ask, just listen.
I don't know how it is I came up with those names, I only remember years back having families I've worked for be uneasy with me calling their children's parts by the actual names, thus, the silly made up name courtesy of Moi!

After telling her this she proceeded to tell me THE MOST HYSTERICAL STORY about how one day, while babysitting their friends' 3 & 1/2 year old son, her husband was pushing said boy on the swings outside, and apparently started pushing a little too hard & little boy piped up & said to her husband:
" Mr.Husband, please don't push me so high, you're making my penis nervous..."

HAHAHAHAHA I LAUGHED SO HARD & AM STILL LAUGHING AS I TYPE THIS!!!!!!!!!

It got me to thinking, what do all of YOU do or what have you DECIDED to do when it comes to referring to your child's private parts & am I the only one who has come up with ridiculous names for the real articles? LOL

C'MON PEPOPLE, SHARE YOUR STORIES!!!

=)

Only six?? HA!

Ok, so I've been tagged by both my Aussie blogger buddy Lee-Anne and a faithful lurker Maggie, to list six weird things about me. It sucks being limited to ONLY six (trust me I could fill this page UP) but here goes...:

-I ONLY drink PG Tips Tea.

-I ONLY use TEDDIE brand Peanut Butter as it's all natural ingredients make for a delicious sandwich! (also great on apple slices!)

-I sometimes read Ruby's books when she's sound asleep & has no idea I'm in there curled up with a smile on my face. Don't get me wrong, I love to read them to her & am CONSTANTLY reading to her but sometimes, it's just nice to read her books to myself when I know she's cozy & warm & sound asleep in the next room. =)

-I NEVER go anywhere without my pink water sippy (sports bottle) and am CONSTANTLY drinking water 24/7. Even brought it with me to China!

-I shower every day but only wash my hair every other.

-I am constantly tweezing any & ALL stray hairs that I find that should NOT BE where I find them! I will literally sit in front of that mirror for a half hour or MORE if that's what it takes to get that ONE STUBBORN HAIR that's PISSING ME OFF! It's a sickness & I'm sure somewhere there's a group just WAITING FOR ME TO JOIN!
lol


-I sometimes stop & think about how my life is now and I realize how happy I am that Ruby is here... that if I look at her too long I start to cry.

-I ONLY use Kleenex Cottonelle Flushable Folded Wipes instead of toilet papaer. (just buy the occasional roll of TP for when guests come over.)

-I NEVER wear any type of flip flip with a TOE VIOLATOR! You know what I'm talkin' about, that nasty little strip of plastic that gets wedged between your toes! OMG! GET IT OUT OF THERE!!!!!!!!!!! Only will wear SLIP ON type sandals with NOTHING between my TOES! Yes, it freaks me out THAT MUCH!!

-The hour before Ruby goes to bed is my FAVORITE TIME OF DAY cuz she's the silliest at that time & we spend most of it playing fun little 'kissing' games & she gives me a 'squeeze' (hug) and over dramatizes the 'squeezing' sound as she hugs me & then laughs, smiles up at me and holds my hand as we snuggle. Always, after I put her to bed & the 'silly time' is over, I get teary because I miss her. Yes, I know she's in the same house as me but she's in her room & I have to leave to let her sleep, so I'm a dorker, I miss her & usually shed a tear or two.

And finally last (for now) but certainly NOT LEAST (and probably T.M.I.):

-I ALWAYS have to wear a Poise Pad daily courtesy of my MS & the fun joys of bladder control, or more to the point, loss of. I seldom actually end up using them for their intended purpose but I HAVE to have them to be on the safe side as there isn't always a bathroom nearby when nature calls & for me, if I don't find one asap, I end up with just p & leave the asa behind.
It's fun being me... *UGH*


Now, I have to tag some people, not sure how many but I'm picking the following people:

Karen
Carrie
Sherrie
Lisa
Julie
Shannon
Sparky
Tink
and
Izi

That should do it for now, I could tag ALL OF YOU but that woud be highly annoying so let's not go there shall we? LOL

Monday, April 17, 2006

Ruby's 1st Easter...

Ruby sits with her Nonno while the two of them
open her very 1st Easter Basket!

Little cousin Isabella has a basket too, but from the looks of things
she's more exicted about that shiny stuff all over it
rather than what's actually in it! hehehe

Morning naps...


... are always better with a friend.

Friday, April 14, 2006

Pupper...


... makes a nice pillow.

Joely & Me...


Great Smile Joely!!!

Too bad I'm too busy stuffing my face with O's to smile LOL


Joely has some of the KEWLEST TOYS EVER!


She's my new friend, and I love her!
*HUG*

Head over the MOON in LOVE...


... with the prettiest little girl this side of China!
How DID I get SO BLESSED?
*tearysmile*